This is a question we all struggle with. Do you see potential for growth or change where your colleague might have a blind spot? Is a family member fighting a battle and you'd like to offer support? Not every situation is one to rush into. With adults, one person's help is another's nosey-ness. Here are 3 easy steps to determine if your help is wanted.
1. remember
You've known this person long enough to have watched him/her receive help in the past. Perhaps you were not the one offering it, but you were a bystander. What was the talk like? Was this person thankful for the help, using it in a productive manner or was the help perceived more as a nuisance and dismissed?
2. watch
Watch how this person talks about the issue of concern. Are you a sought out companion when times get tough or does this person have another go-to source for support? Are you brought questions for input or simply statements of what's already been decided.
3. offer cautiously
After pondering the above two questions, you decide to offer your insight--do this cautiously. Remember, the same message (the same words!) sounds different coming from different people. Is this a message that should come from a boss, a doctor or some other official? If you still feel the message could come from you and be helpful, go for it. You are a great friend/family member for taking the time to consider how your help would be received.
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