grieving the loss of a loved one

There is nothing easy about losing a loved one, and 3 steps will never be enough, but they are a start.


1. cry
Sniffle, sob, wail--it's all ok. However your body wants to express emotion is ok. We aren't equipped to keep these feelings in. Unfortunately, so many of us feel pressure to "put on a happy face" even in times of loss. Don't give into the pressure just yet. Take time...and cry.

2. connect
Find friends, family and loved ones. You have a safety net, now's the time to use it. Rely on these people, they want to help--so let them! Too often we force ourselves to "be strong" and push through the day without any help. Asking for a shoulder to lean on is strength.


3. remember
Take time to remember all the reasons why the deceased was important to you. Write these thoughts down. Talk with friends about the ways he/she touched your life. Keep the person alive in your memories and your heart.