...instill a work ethic in your child

In a world that values convenience and extravagance (amazingly, even in these tough economic times!), it is possible to instill a solid work ethic in your child. Follow these 3 easy steps and you'll be amazed at what your kids are capable of doing. Yes, they are capable and, believe it or not, they want to show you just what they can do.

1. expect the best
Don't be afraid to set your expectations high. Your kids will rise to the challenge. We all do exactly what is expected of us. If you expect your child to be self centered and sit on the couch while you re-grout the kitchen tile, guess what? Your child will sit on the couch while you re-grout! Be clear in your expectations, take into consideration any physical limitations, and hold your child to your standards.

2. live the life
Do as I say and not as I do does not work. You have to walk the walk in order to be respected. Is your child's work ethic a mirror reflection of yours? Take a good hard look. What do you need to do to improve your work ethic? Keep your child in the loop as you take on new challenges. Tell your child, You know, I could have spent $300 to get the tile re-grouted, but why when I know how to do it myself? When you get tired, say so to your child, but then carry on with the job. What you're doing is modeling that work is work, it can be tiring and uncomfortable, but that's not a reason to quit. When the grout is finished, admire work--model satisfaction in the result of your hard work.

3. play hard
Everything is a balance. A life full of work is just as extreme as a life full of play--both are out of balance. Finish a job and then go to the beach or park as a reward. Each job earns a reward. Careful not to fall into the trap of going shopping, not every task requires a purchase.

As always, these 3 steps take time. Don't be discouraged if your child isn't jumping in to help after watching you do one or two tough jobs. What your developing is a pattern, and an expectation of what being a member of your family is all about.